So what exactly is emotional intelligence?
In lay terms, emotional intelligence is a set of abilities:
such as being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to
control impulse and delay gratification; regulate one’s moods and keep away from being distressed .
‘Emotional Intelligence involves the ability to carry out accurate reasoning about emotions
and the ability to use emotions and emotional knowledge to enhance thought.
We know that Emotional Intelligence (EI) is a core component of success but the problem with EI models is that they were not designed to help people navigate the challenging systems of business and organizations. They fail to focus on the people who create the tone, culture, and vision for organizations—the Executives. Emphasis is placed on individual development, rather than on closing the gap between one’s strategic intent and its actual impact.
I define Executive Emotional Intelligence (EEI) as “the integration of feelings and thoughts, which allows you to read and influence yourself and others so you can drive results.” The Executive Emotional Intelligence (EEI) model is designed to help people nurture their talents and grow their developmental areas in order to be successful leaders.
Why EI is Important? Talking about emotion is not an accepted norm in all businesses. Too often people attempt to eliminate emotion in their decision-making processes. Yet emotion is part of every interaction and every decision, whether you know it or not. In fact, emotion is data, just like the numbers on a balance sheet.
What’s Different about Executives? Executives are unique; they are viewed under a microscope and any mistakes they make have great impact on their organizations. They are under constant pressure, which amplifies bad habits that lead to ineffective leadership. Successful executives get to where they are by driving results but once they get to the top, a shift is necessary.
They now need to achieve results through others. Their focus moves from their personal accomplishments to a wider vision and strategy aimed at growing the competence and confidence of their people.
Senior Executives with high levels of EEI bring their performance gaps into awareness, manage their weaknesses, and leverage their talents. The greater ability executives have to receive feedback, understand themselves, their people, and their situations, the more likely they are to choose an approach that will create the best result for their organization.
(Executives EEI is about the successful integration of emotions and thoughts. It includes reading and leading yourself, other people, and situations in order to strategically drive results.
Reading is about insight as you move forward—for example, knowing what is important to whom in a situation and developing an influence strategy based on that.
Reading Yourself: the ability to be self-aware before, during, and after situations. Skill: Reaction Awareness—knowing your “hot spots” or triggers that cause you to react in an emotional way. A common trigger for managers is when a direct report does not follow through on a commitment.
Reading People: the ability to accurately interpret verbal and nonverbal communication and awareness of your impact on others. Skill: Talent Identification—having insight into what people’s strengths and areas of growth are and knowing how to leverage and nurture their talent.
Reading the Situation: is the ability to understand the circumstances and dynamics of past, current, and future business conditions. Skill: Political Awareness—knowing the power dynamics of the organization (i.e.,who the key stakeholders are and how they are influenced).
Leading is about action and growth—for example, acting on a strategy to test your insights.
Leading Yourself: the ability to motivate and manage yourself in order to be self-strategic. Skill: Self-Coaching—monitoring and adapting your self-talk to create positive outcomes.
Leading People: the ability to encourage and inspire others based on your insights and intentions. Skill: Engagement Enhancement—creating a climate that keeps people energized and dedicated to their work.
Leading Situations: the ability to be a change catalyst and have a positive impact on internal and external systems. Skill: Business Case Building—creating leverage that appeals to people you are attempting to influence.
Reactions vs. Responses: Leaders need to make better choices on how to influence others, especially during these tough times. A more strategic response would be to wait a short period of time and to gather information. Then have a clarifying conversation with the employee to discuss the cause of the poor performance. You will now be able to determine what leadership approach you should use in this specific situation.
The characteristics listed below are based on the perceptions of leaders that have dealt with the consequences of being reactive and the benefits of being responsive. Reactions:
Based on emotions
Lack of meaning
At your pace
Logic and emotion
The Bottom Line: Too often, smart people do dumb things. They react unthinkingly to situations rather than taking the time to be self-strategic. The simple act of taking a step back to read before you lead will result in more interactions where you achieve your desired results. The most encouraging part about EEI is that the skills can be learned. You’ll find that if you take even small steps, you will react better with consciousness.
I would like to ask you to do this quiz below and test your EEI ability, then respond to my email with your results.
Next week we discuss the 3 wheels of a successful Executive leading with emotional intelligence.
When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion.”
- Dale Carnegie.
Until next time, Have a blissful Month of AUGUST.